Victim Mentality

By Sara F
February 26, 2020

Seven years ago, I had a folder in my email inbox that I named “Rejection”. For years I would send every single rejection email I received to this folder. So all the rejected job applications or the failed interviews, I would send them all to this folder of doom. 😑 smh.. And every once in a while I would look at it and have a pity party. “Boo hoo.. the world hates me, bla bla bla” 🙄🙄 “and it’s because I’m black/immigrant/Muslim/woman. The odds are stacked against me bla bla bla”🙄🙄

You see one of the biggest dangers of being a minority is this victim mentality. The “It’s not me it’s them”. “They don’t like me because I’m ABCD or E”. I know this isn’t true for everyone but personally I had this season in my life. And I realise that it only stopped me from looking inwards and recognising my shortcomings, thereby improving upon them. Victim mentality stops you from progressing and improving and it will keep you bitter and angry. It is a vicious cycle of self-pity and blame followed by more rejection

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Alhamdulillah today, I wear all facets of my identity with pride and I take rejection and failure in my stride. It is part of life. However, I am also not that naive to think that the world is completely fair and that discrimination doesn’t exist

Can you relate to this? How do you deal with rejection?

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“What is meant for you will never pass you by and what’s not yours will never come to you”☪️

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